It's a question that I have been asking myself for days now. Andy and I have been friends for over a year and as of lately we have been getting closer. No, Andy is not gay and not close in that way. Close as very good friends. Andy has told me some things that I know he would only tell to the person that he trusts. I won't repeat these secrets he has told me and I wouldn't expect anyone to want me to. You see I have been slowly integrating talks of gays and gay rights around him and he seems to agree with it all. In fact one of our friends named Caleb, whom he and I used to play Dungeons & Dragons with actually came out to him.
I wan't to. I just don't know how to approach the subject. Andy does know that I was engaged, of course I doubt that he knew it was a guy. Never had I ever said it was a girl, I always the used the term "that person" or "them". Mostly to hide the fact that I'm gay until I am ready, but a little for the fact I hate to even think of the name Josh.
I could really use some help on how to tell my best friend Andy about my sexualiy without him thinking that my hanging out with him so much is not flirtation. It's very hard coming out, more so to the ones you really care about.